Anger is a normal human emotion and when it is managed properly it is not a problem. Everyone gets angry, and mild anger can sometimes be useful to express strong feelings and help deal with situations. However, if anger is expressed in harmful ways, or persists over a long period of time, then it can lead to problems in relationships, both personal and professional, and can impact the overall quality of your life.
Anger is displayed in many ways. It can present as quiet frustration, mild annoyance, stubbornness, or seething resentment, intense rage and sudden explosions of loud and intimidating verbal and/or physical aggression. However problem anger presents itself, the effect on others (often those we love) is hurtful, frightening and can result in significant psychological damage – sometimes irreparable without psychological intervention.
Individuals who have directly experienced or witnessed problematic anger issues as children, often seek counselling as adults. They are generally unaware that the anger they witnessed as children has become the cause of current life and relationship difficulties. Being around repeated, problematic anger changes people.
When people have angry feelings, they often behave in angry ways too. Angry behaviours include yelling, throwing things, criticising, ignoring, storming out and sometimes withdrawing and doing nothing. Anger can often lead to violence if not properly controlled and some people use anger as an excuse for being abusive towards others. Violence and abusive behaviour gives someone power and control over another person usually through creating fear.
Some of the signs of problematic anger are listed below:
- You often feel angry
- People close to you are worried about your anger
- Arguments often end in heated words or behaviours
- People are fearful of you
- Anger is leading to problems at work or home
- You often become angry while driving
- You become angry very quickly over small matters
- You are directing your anger onto those close to you
We cannot always control anger-provoking situations, however, we can manage our perceptions and responses to them. That is what anger management counselling is about.
What is Anger Management?
Anger Management counselling helps people to understand the underlying causes of their anger and irritability, and to assist them in developing coping strategies to use when anger is likely to be triggered. A therapist helps people identify their early warning signs to anger, and is assisted in identifying triggering thoughts, feelings or situations. Anger Management is about learning to manage your anger levels and to minimize angry confrontation.
Anger Management Counselling involves improving communication skills and effective self-expression. Therapy helps people to better understand their anger responses and learn better ways to handle and express them, or to learn techniques to calm down and manage the situation before it gets out of control.
Anger may also be related to other problems such as an injury to the brain, or drug or alcohol use, so it is important to get professional help for these problems. People with poor anger management can also experience anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, psychosomatic illnesses and problems with alcohol or drugs. Getting help for anger management issues can have many benefits to your overall life happiness.